Mood swings and crankiness are all part of the territory when it comes to being in a relationship. Unfortunately, sometimes it’s that crankiness that can cause problems in a relationship and cause friction between the couple. If you find that your girlfriend is crankier than usual and experiencing mood swings, there’s probably a very good reason for it and you might be able to help calm her down. By following these steps on how to approach your cantankerous girlfriend, you will be less likely to harm your relationship, but rather strengthen it and maybe even enrich that bond.
Step 1.
If you think your girlfriend is cranky, there’s probably a very good reason. It could stem from a variety of reasons which include but not limited to work-related problems, financial hardships or worries, or maybe even hormonal situations like PMS.
Step 2.
Many men think that if she is cranky and takes it out on him, then he is the cause of the problem. While this may be the case some of the time, it isn’t necessarily always going to be the reason. In fact, sometimes it has absolutely nothing to do with you. You will want to take a moment to look over the things that could be bothering her based on her actions toward you but also to the people and things in her environment.
Step 3.
When in doubt, you can never go wrong by simply asking her what is wrong. Tell her that you understand that she isn’t pleased about something and you want her to feel comfortable enough to come to you and express her feelings without fear of judgment or criticism. The ultimate goal here is to gain her trust and help her calm down.
Step 4.
If you cannot reach her better senses and she refuses to calm down, simply give her some space to work through her problems. Sometimes she just needs to take a moment or two to collect her thoughts and feelings. If you cohabitate, you can either leave the house and run a few errands or just stay in a different room from her.
Step 5.
When all else fails, wrap her in your arms and give her a comforting hug. You can tell her that you are always there for her and will give her anything she needs just to see her happy again. Although she may not appreciate the sentiment at that moment, she will appreciate it once she does calm down and sees how lucky she is to have a man like you to support her and comfort her, even when she is difficult to deal with.
It’s funny how love can make us do some incredible things. When we are single and we see someone acting a certain way, we want nothing to do with them… However, when it is someone we care for and love, we are willing to walk through fire just to see them smile again. Perhaps that is the definition of what love is — the willingness to do anything just to see them in better spirits.