The first date is an exciting event because this is your opportunity to get to know the person that you’ve been crushing on. You will be able to spend time together one on one and you will be able to see if there is chemistry between the two of you.
Unfortunately, some people make common mistakes on their first date that could potentially ruin their chances for a second date. What are these mistakes, you ask?
Common Mistakes on the First Date
1. Not Being Yourself
When someone agrees to go out with you, they do so because they like something about you. Many people change who they are in order to fit what they think that other person likes. For example, a guy may pretend he is interested in the latest art show, when they could really care less. A woman may act like she is interested in your story about how you caught a huge fish while fly fishing, when all she wants to know is who designed your living room.
2. Being Unprepared for the Date
This means not showering, shaving, having enough money, or even having protection in case things go really well. There is nothing worse than being unprepared to wow your date on the crucial first date!
3. Not Having A Plan
Really? How are you going to ask someone out and not have any idea what you will be doing on this date? This mistake is generally one that the men make, as they usually are the ones doing the asking, but ladies can be guilty of it too.
4. No Physical Interaction
Physical interaction at some point during the first date is important, especially if you are feeling one another. You don’t want to go through the whole night with your hands by your side because this will give them the idea that you don’t like them and you have no desire to get physical with them. Instead, while you are flirting with your date, find a reason to touch them, whether it is a gentle touch on the arm, a hand on their shoulder, or guiding her through the door with your hand on the small of her back. Whatever you do, touch them (appropriately of course)!
5. Going to the Movies
Okay, going to the movies after dinner can be a nice date—if you’ve been going out for a while! The whole point of a first date is to get to know each other. How can you possibly get to know the other person if you are sitting in a dark theater where you cannot talk!?
6. Handle Rejection Poorly
Let’s just get this out of the way, sometimes things will go poorly on your first date. Because of this, rejection will surely follow, either by you or to you. The way you handle it is important because you don’t want to come off like a jerk with a mean streak. If the date isn’t going as you hoped, be cordial and say that you think the date should end and part ways on a good note. Who knows, perhaps your date make appreciate your frankness and you could explore a friendship, rather than a romantic relationship.